My 2 Cents

Jersey Shore Cast…as kids!??!??

Posted on January 14, 2011. Filed under: My 2 Cents, Random, Stereotypes | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

So, I have to admit that I have fallen victim to the Jersey Shore craze. When MTV first starting airing the show I really wasn’t into it. I never watched an episode and really didn’t care too. When Jersey Shore came about everyone had a reality show. They seemed to be about anything and they were all the same…drama, drama, drama, arguing and fighting. However, as you guys may know I am a HUGE fan of the Bad Girls Club so sometimes I love the drama. I watch every episode of BGC religiously. However one day after a BGC rerun went off there was nothing else on TV (&& I do love reality shows) so I ended up watching one of the last episodes of the Jersey Shore from the first season. After that I was HOOKED!! I think I love the show so much because my living situation  is similar, which is not ideal. I am more like the Sammi type in my household just b/c these people are so fake and phony and I can’t deal, but anyway, before I get off topic..

I was surfing the web and came across this “Jersey Shore Cast as kids” picture and was interested to see what they may have looked like as kids. However when I saw the picture I soon realized this was not the actual cast but this was some parent who dressed their kids up as some of the cast members and posted it on the internet. Personally I thought it was just a fun and cute thing to do, but as I started reading the comments posted on Bourgy a lot of people thought this picture was in bad taste.

A lot of them took it as far as to say the “dad wants his daughters to grow up and be strippers,” which to me, is a crazy thing to say. I think in this day people take things WAYYY too seriously. All of the apologies that have been demanded from celebrities that may have “said the wrong thing” and others careers that have been ended over making mistakes, to me, is ridiculous. We are all human, we all make mistakes and yea you have a responsibility to be a role model as a celebrity but no one can do the right thing all of the time.

So I wanted to know what you guys thought about the picture, about the posting of the picture and about the parents dressing their kids up as Jersey Shore cast members?!? I’m interested to see what you guys think…

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Why do Abusers Abuse!???!???

Posted on October 30, 2009. Filed under: Abuse, Double Standards, Life, Men, My 2 Cents, Problems, Relationship | Tags: , |

This has always been a topic that I wondered about. I’ve always wondered why men abused women existed and why there were women in the world that stayed in abusive relationships. First and Foremost, let me say that I don’t think it’s right for a woman to hit a man, or vice versa, but this post is geared towards all the male abusers out there and reading this post right now…

Me and My Mr. always have arguments about these sorts of topics. His claim to fame is that “A woman needs to stay in her place and she won’t have to worry about it.” I always say, “What is a woman’s place?? I have never come across ANY  reason why a man can talk sh&t, get in a womans face and a woman can’t do the same. I see no sense in that. I am a firm believer in the notion that everyone’s created equally. I have never prayed on any one simply because they seemed more fragile and more weak than I. That is cruel and doesn’t help me feel better about myself at all. If anything I try to uplift the “weak” so they won’t be taken advantage of by the next person that comes along. Anywho, I never understood why and when men thought it was OK to hit women. Was there a newsflash that I didn’t hear about?? I would think that hitting women would make you feel like less of a man, considering we’re supposed to be the more “fragile” of our species. It seems just a little too easy and the pattern that I have observed in abusers is one where they are always afraid of other confronting men that may cross the abusers path. So is it that they feel weak in the world and feel like letting out all of their anger and frustrations from that out on someone weaker than themselves? It seems that men are supposed to be our protectors but when we need protection from them, what happens then?

I know lots of outsiders (people looking into  an abusive relationship) would say, “why not call the police and why not just leave!?” However, sometimes it just isn’t that easy. Most of the time along with physical abuse comes emotional abuse and a very genuine fear of what will happen if they take these next steps. Especially when your fear for your family and/or your children.

I want men to know this and hear THIS if nothing else, there are many alternatives to hitting your lady. This should never even come across the mind as an option. When me and My Mr. are in the midst of arguing and I feel like it’s going too far, I usually just leave, cool off and maybe talk about it later.

—A few things to relieve stress to let go of Tension.

– Work Out

– Take up Boxing, or another Sport.

– Go Smoookke. (For all you smokers out there).

-Try to look at yourself as if you are out of the moment and in the room, what would your mother say?! What would you say if you were looking at yourself?

-When you feel the tension building, leave. Get in the car and go!

I want to talk a bit about the predatory side of abusing.  There are certain men out there that prey on a specific type of woman. There are men on Earth that enjoy beating on women. These are the types of guys that I never want to get involved with, meet, or even know. There is something really degrading and disheartening about the fact that a man will take his frustrations out on his wife or his woman, “the woman he’s supposed to love.” I do think there are men out there that get enjoyment out of someone else’s fear of them. I believe they crave and love that cycle of abuse, forgiveness, abuse and then again forgiveness. I guess that’s why these reality show brains came up with shows like “Snapped,” where women end up killing their husbands because they have been abused repeatedly until the point they are scared for their life and just can’t take it anymore. These women feel the only way to end their misery is to end their abusers life. That’s another thing, sometimes these women are so scared of their men they feel the only way to defend themselves is to resort to shooting, or killing their “victim” while in sleep mode or otherwise not aware of what’s going on.

I swear, abuse is a powerful thing. I know there are many aspects about this subject that I don’t know. I have done a little reading on the subject but nothing too extensive. I was just thinking about it and wanted to express my opinions on the topic.

Have any of you ever been in an abusive relationship? What came of it?

What if you found out the person you love is an abuser (emotional or physical), would you tell someone? Would you honestly try to leave?

What do you think about the women that end of killing their abusive husbands??

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It’s that Natural Hair Time AGAIN!!! Post #3 9/10/09

Posted on September 10, 2009. Filed under: Hair, Hair Journey, My 2 Cents, Random, Rants, Style, Women | Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

It’s PRODUCT REVIEW TIME!!. This is my first actual review on just one product and I wanted my first review to be on the product that I love the most. Whenever i’m styling my natural hair I HAVE to use this product to get and maintain my style throughout the day.

I have been using this product for about two months now and I am loving it!! It helps so much with the transitioning process, as well as styling. I really don’t know how I ever did without it. That’s when you KNOW you’ve found a good product, when you feel like you’re hair isn’t the same without it. Yea, that’s how I feel about this product. So, as some of you know, I am in the process of a Natural Hair Journey. I have chopped off the back of my hair and left the front longer, for styling purposes. When I was permed however, I was always looking for the one product that would give me that extra little smoothness that this product ….

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gives you.

**Sidenote* I just want to make it clear this product is great for natural or relaxed hair.

I had searched high and low for the right type of gel, could never find it, so I gave up on gels all together. This was at a time when I was a lot younger. I felt like my new growth had to be tamed. I had to make it look like I had a fresh relaxer. See, that’s just part of the entrapment that a relaxer causes to someone that uses them. Every single gel I used back then either made my hair extra hard or extra flaky. I’m sure many of you (that use gel) have experienced what i’m talking about. You gel your hair down for a style one day and then the next day it is full of little brown crusty thingys. Lol. 

We women know that is not a good look but sometimes it’s hard to find a gel that doesn’t produce those side effects.

Now i’ve found one. Even though this is a great product however, I don’t want to be misleading and not give a person interested in this product all of the facts. This EcoStyler gel can  make your hair a little hard but it does easily wash out. When you’re rinsing it out it feels as if you’re dealing with conditioner and there is practically no build-up with this product. Once you gel something down, trust, IT WILL STAY DOWN AND BE TAMED LIKE NOBODY’S BUSINESS! Lol. You don’t have to constantly re-gel.

**a little tip* if you add something under the gel, such as Shea Butter, Cantu Leave-In or some type of protectant then that alleviates the hardness issue.

Even though i’m ranting and raving about his product I can’t take all the credit for finding it. On my YouTube I have subscribed to many natural ladies who are doing their thang in the self hair-care world. One of my fav’s however is PrettyDimples01. She always used to (and still does) rave about the EcoStyler Gel. I know, by how much  she was talking about it that it had to be a good product. After trying it, I knew she was right and I will probably never use another Gel in life.

**Sidenote: It was a little hard for me to find, but Sally’s should have it. When I bought it the price was around 2 for $5 for a big jar of it (like the picture) so it’s a great value!

So, I hope this post helps out some of my African-American natural and relaxed ladies (Yea, we don’t discriminate around these parts!!)

If you’re looking for a nice gel then try this one and tell me what you think.

If you already are using EcoStyler Gel let everyone know what you think about it, good or bad.

If you use something else enlighten me/us on that as well!

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Chris Brown Interview… Chris, you might as well have Stayed HOME!

Posted on September 3, 2009. Filed under: Career, Double Standards, Job, Life, Love, Men, My 2 Cents, Problems, Relationship, Women | Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

…this little “spoof” may be a little excessive but it hits on some good points. Chris is trying to gain back his popularity but he will NEVER do so if he doesn’t take responsibility for what he did. This guy is in COMPLETE DENIAL. I have never been the one to tell someone to apologize if they don’t mean it, but in America, right now, he is not being well received. No one is buying his albums. He’s not touring. No one is feeling the Chris Brown that everyone, just a few years ago, couldn’t get enough of. I think people just want Chris to say, “OK. I made a mistake and I was totally wrong for putting my hands on a woman, especially a woman that I love.”

He’s doing everything in his power to NOT do that and it’s really backfiring. Rihanna has moved on with her life and he’s stuck in this vicious loop that he’s NOT going to get out of unless he explains to America what was going through his head. Everyone saw the pictures of what he did and for him to say he doesn’t remember?? It’s unacceptable.

…and furthermore, what I thought was the craziest part of the interview was when they aired his prior apology. When they aired it, Chris started “laughing,” he really just had a little smirk on his face.

I really couldn’t believe that! I know he was trying to hold in it but it was evident that he found it humurous!

Even though everyone knows that apology was fake, he really just proved it and i’m surprised that that portion of the interview hasn’t turned into a huge deal. After that I really didn’t even want to watch the Interview anymore, but of course I did && TIVO’d it. Lol.

**So…Everybody let me know what you think about this situation?

Does he need to own up to what he did or should everyone just forget about this?

Are there more important things going on? Do you think his career will be the same?

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…and the plot THICKENS!!! Ryan, “Megan wants a Millionaire” found DEAD!

Posted on August 25, 2009. Filed under: Life, My 2 Cents, Problems, Relationship | Tags: , , , , , , |

As E! Online is reporting…

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The manhunt for murder suspect Ryan Jenkins is officially over. Canadian police found the former reality star dead in a hotel room the afternoon of August 23rd, E! News confirmed.

Authorities have not yet released an official cause of death, but police say the 32-year-old died of an apparent suicide. He reportedly hung himself.

Royal Canadian Mounted Police found his body in a motel room in Hope, British Columbia, a town 84 miles east of Vancouver.

The death ends an international manhunt for the “Megan Wants a Millionaire” finalist, who fled to his native Canada on foot last week.

“The sadness of all this is that Mr. Jenkins will not be standing before an Orange County jury for his crime,” Buena Park Police Lt. Steve Holliday said in a press conference last night.

Jenkins was charged in the gruesome murder of his ex-wife, former swimsuit model Jasmine Fiore, after her body was found stuffed in a suitcase inside of a trash bin on Aug. 15. Fiore, 28, was missing her teeth and fingers.

Jenkins, who met and married Fiore within the span of just a few weeks this spring, quickly moved from “person of interest” to person charged with murder.

It’s a tag his death may not relieve.

“I do believe he participated in the murder,” Holliday said. “Because there’s additional information we’re following up on, I can’t expand any further than that.”

Holliday added that Jenkins’ vehicle is a “key piece of evidence in this investigation,” but declined to confirm reports that Fiore was killed in the car.

“We’re lucky to have that car. And we would love to have seen Ryan Jenkins stand before an Orange County jury.”

**My 2 Cents**

I really don’t know exactly how I feel about this situation but I do feel that the media and world were way too quick to judge this man. The only thing they are/were saying is that Fiore && Jenkins were having problems. The last time that I checked having problems in a relationship doesn’t automatically mean that he killed her. Yes, maybe he could have been extremely upset, but at the same time Fiore was a model && there could have been people in her life that she did wrong, there could be other people that want to hurt her or maybe she just met the wrong person on the wrong night.

I think once the police have a theory in their mind there is really no getting around it. The fact that he “committed suicide” (allegedly) would probably make someone think that he is guilty for sure, but I think that we will never know. I mean, Jenkins was about to become a little famous, as famous as a Reality Show can make someone. He was stealing the show && Megan’s heart from the beginning..

However, don’t get me wrong. I’m not defending him, I don’t know either party. I don’t know what happened either but there should be further investigation && I know that there will be some, so when I find another article on the happenings I will definitely post them here…

Thanks for visiting my blog — The Queen.

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to be classy, or not to be classy. That is her question.

Posted on August 14, 2009. Filed under: Body, Job, Model Type., My 2 Cents, Style | Tags: , , , , , |

this Real Chance of Love 2 girl “Classy” takes some racy photos.

I wonder if they chose the right name for her or not?? Can a lady still be classy && take internet photos like these??

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So this one is seemingly OK, but for a “Classy” lady, IDK, but the rest are much more provocative..

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So, what do you guys think?? Should she have done these photos?? Is this something that you would have expected from her, or is it all the same?

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…one more date with the EX?? After you’ve moved on??

Posted on August 13, 2009. Filed under: My 2 Cents, Problems, Relationship | Tags: , , , , |

This segment of the Tyra Banks Show was about three people that were in somewhat of a “love triangle”.

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From Left to Right.
Contessa– the current girlfriend/fiance.
Brian– Man in the Middle.
Jamila–the Ex.

…here is the link to the video (I tried to add the video from the Tyra website but it wasn’t working out so you can check it out here..
One More Date with the Ex.

The show starts out with Jamila (the ex) telling Tyra about how much she still has feelings for her ex, Brian. She came on the show because she wanted one more date with him, to see if old feelings were still there. Jamila says she just never got over Brian and you can tell. She explained that she stills gets butterflies when she sees or talks about him. They’ve known each other since she was 16 years old. She is pretty much still in love with him, but on the other hand it seemed like Brian had pretty much moved on from her.

Jamila keeps saying throughout the whole show that she broke up with him && they were only supposed to take a break. They had agreed that they would not get into a serious relationship with anyone…but he did. On the show, she seems very alone and bitter without Brian, but at the same time a lot of women are this way, but have alterior motives. I believe Jamila is guilty of this. Whenever their ex gets a new woman they get very jealous and want the ex back. Brian also stated that everytime he tries to start something with a new girl Jamila always pops back up into the picture.

So, the current girlfriend, Contessa comes onto the set and she is a strikingly beautiful lady. Jamila is a pretty girl too, but in my eyes Contessa was much more so, but that is the farthest thing from what’s important right now.

What I don’t understand is why would Contessa want to do a show like this? Jamila was very adamant about “getting HER man back.” She said even if Contessa && Brian were married and had kids Jamila would still love him and want him. I understand that people never forget about a true or first love, but completely disregarding the fact that he is about to get married is totally wrong.

Brian && Contessa both said that, previosly, on many occasions they have told Jamila there is no future there. Brian said on the show he was ready to change his number and never talk to her again. I was like DANNNGG, if she still wants him after that then something is truly wrong with her. He was point blank just telling her there is nothing there and he doesn’t want anything else to do with her and wouldn’t care if she was out of his life for good.

The one thing I loved about this episode, though, was that Contessa was completely TRUSTING in her man. That was a beautiful thing to see, but she also said they have been through it all with Jamila. Jamila has done so many things to where Contessa doesn’t believe anything she says at this point. Jamila did end up telling Tyra that Brian had taken her back to the hotel, after SHE asked && him too && she says they had sex, which I do think is a lie. Contessa’s face didn’t even seem surprised. That’s when I knew it was probably a lie. Contessa said she expected for Jamila to say something like that. She knew it was coming. There is now way that the audience would know what they have been through with this girl, and I’m sorry, but Jamilla does seem a little crazy.

I believe she is trying her hardest to get someone back that doesn’t want her. On their date he just seemed uninterested. It was more like a friendship type date. Also, on the other hand i’m sure Brian was smart enough to know that anything he did on TV would get back to his fiance, so that could be part of it also.

At the end of the show Brian did end up proposing to his “fiance.” Yea, confusing right!??! They said they had to tell Jamila they were engaged in HOPES of her leaving them alone && that still didn’t work.

I just can’t stand girls like Jamilla, I really can’t. I would bet that if Brian was broke && alone she wouldn’t even think 2 seconds about him, but then again I don’t know. She was the one that did break up with him so she can’t be mad that he moved on and couldn’t wait on her forever..

So I wanna know what you guys think…if you had the chance would you go on one last date with an ex to see if there was still a spark there?

What if you were on the other end, the new person in their life?? Would you let your new companion go out with their ex?

Any comments or questions are welcome…I really wanna know how people feel about this subject.

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